Riv wrote:I'm so sorry, Bxccah
The only thing I can't really help with is break-ups. I don't know how to get through them myself. It does get better with time, so the only thing I can suggest is wait, and be patient. If it was pretty serious, it's even harder to move on, but eventually you must do that. No matter what. I remember that after one break-up I was so down, I couldn't do any school work, I walked around like a zombie - everything I said, every emotion I showed - it was all a pretense, a mask. Inside that mask I was screaming, crying, curling up in the corner and dying all over again. I don't know how I got through it, but at one point it seemed pointless even to me. So I, step by step, started emerging from that zombie-mode. And now I am happier than ever because I found a person who is much better for me and to me than that other person ever was.
So, as I said, the only thing I can really say is: time heals all wounds. Don't try to erase that person from your heart or brain, it will only hurt yourself further, but instead learn to cope without that person. She'll still have a spot in your heart, but that spot will get smaller and smaller with time, making space for new people, new experiences.
I know this might not make sense right now or you simply won't acknowledge the truth of what I'm saying, but remember these words. I've gone through it. I know what I'm talking about. And since you've gone through break-ups before, you know that at least something in my words is true.
I hope you will soon feel better again. In the meantime, though, cry yourself out, scream if you need to, watch sad movies with lots of ice cream, but don't think that you weren't good enough (she didn't know what she was losing! *finger snap*), that you will never get over it and it's better if you didn't exist (I know many people, including myself have thought these thoughts. Those are NOT good thoughts). You WILL get through this, in time. We are here for you, honey. If you need a place to vent or scream (R-rated, of course, on-forum ), just come here. These wonderful people here have helped me through some rough patches and will be glad to help you as well. You can ALWAYS count on us being there for you.
And you can PM me if you feel the need to talk more privately. I might not answer right away (probably because I'm sleeping or I actually have something important to do IRL), but I WILL answer the next day. I promise you that.
I hope this helped in some way and that you will feel better soon again. =) ♥
Okay, I think that is the nicest and most helpful thing I've read in weeks.
Thank you, so much... You have no idea how much that means to me, because that's exactly how I feel... I have to keep a brave face because I'm living with my little niece at the moment but now she's in bed, I was ready to completely go to pieces, to
(I added that in case it distresses anyone else who might read it, and it wouldn't let me PM on my iPhone but I wanted you to know how grateful I am)
But that's just made me smile, and it's given me the strength not to do those things. There is a tub of Ben and Jerrys in the freezer for 'emergencies' that my sister bought, so I think I will take that and try to just ride it out. I mean, I know the pain will get better with time, it always does, always. But at the time, it's just so awful, and it hurts so much
I think I'll get my favourite blanket, my hot water bottle, my ice cream and read The Goblet of Fire. Not sure why that book works as a distraction so well but... Not complaining
Seriously, thank you...I'm normally the kind of person to keep stuff inside, but I thought, hey, I might as well post on here, someone is bound to cheer me up. I wasn't expecting that beautiful, kind message.
You've just made a huge difference in my night, and stopped me from relapsing.
Thank you :'D